23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time (A)

dc7259495409db483f53803df58f17e8

Fraternal Correction  

Readings:

Ez 33:7-9/ Ps 95:1-2. 6-7. 8-9

Rom 13: 8-10

Mt. 18: 15-20

 

Two lessons are being presented in today’s gospel:

1)      It is about conversion—by giving the one who offended us a chance to repent without publicly destroying his/her name.

2)      Jesus condemns all destructive gossip.

*****

One day, a young man approached a monk and told the monk that he had engaged in gossiping. To teach him a lesson about the permanent damage that gossip can cause others, the monk sent the young man to the bridge over the river and bring along with him a pillow. He was instructed that once he on the bridge the young man should cut open the pillow and shake out its feathers. Upon returning, the monk sent back the young man to collect the feathers. “But that’s impossible”, the young man replied. “By now they have flown in every direction. I could never get them back.” “Exactly”, said the monk. Your gossip is the same. Once released it can never be retrieved.

*****

One of the most common defects of people (male/female, single/married, young/old) is the persistent habit of discussing another’s fault with everyone else, except with the person at fault. Some people seem to take pleasure at another person’s wrongdoing because it gives them something to talk about and perhaps, it is a way to cover up their own wrong doings. It is even said that the faults we find most repugnant in others are precisely the ones that plague our own lives.

The most damaging consequence of such a human behavior is when a wrongdoing is falsely attributed to an innocent person.

*****

If a neighbor has wronged us in some way, Jesus wants us to give that neighbor a chance to recognize his/her wrongdoing and make a change. Instead of destroying his name and reputation, Jesus teaches us today to be compassionate as our heavenly father is compassionate to our own wrongdoings. Go to your erring brother and with charity point out to him something in his conduct which is not proper for a Christian. We cannot remain indifferent nor tolerate the wrongdoings of others. Fraternal correction is most often the most neglected duty. Try to ask yourselves when was the last time that you have corrected an erring brother, a friend or a member of the family, or a confrere in a religious community? Is it not that most often we do not have the courage to approach an erring brother and tell him of his faults. We would rather comment behind our brother’s back on his wrongdoings.

*****

One more important point – if you are not willing to accept correction from others, then never attempt to correct others. Fraternal correction is a two-way street. I am willing to correct other out of charity and I too am willing to be corrected.

Fraternal correction is always possible if we are willing to understand with humility and compassion the shortcomings of others. Jesus never condemned sinners, he never talked behind their backs about their sins. He always gave them chances to repent—a way to build people, and not to destroy them!

*****

More posts about:

ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Frei Bo

Frei Bo

Priest-Religious of the Order of Augustinian Recollects, Province of St. Ezekiel Moreno. Webmaster.

Leave a Comment





< 2020 >
November
SMTuWThFS
1
  • All day
    November 1, 2020

    ALL SAINTS’ DAY
    “The Solemnity of All Saints is ‘our’ feast not because we are good, but because the holiness of God touches our lives.” (Pope Francis)

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Marjorie Palacat, AR

2
  • All day
    November 2, 2020

    +ALL SOULS’ DAY

    As we prayerfully remember our beloved dead, we are reminded that eternal life “is not an unending succession of days, but an immersion of oneself in the ocean of infinite love, in which time, before and after, no longer exists.” (Pope Benedict XVI)

    Note: The customary celebration of the mass on this day at Himlayang Pilipino by the Recoletos Family members in Luzon is canceled. (cf. IATF Resolution No. 72, dated Sept. 17, 2020)

    NOTE: PLENARY INDULGENCE is extended beyond Nov. 1-8, 2020. Cf. https://www.vaticannews.va/en/vatican-city/news/2020-10/decree-plenary-indulgence- faithful-departed-november.html

    BIRTHDAY
    Jovert Jimenez (RAY-Caidiocan)

3
  • All day
    November 3, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Lolita Esteves, AR

    ANNIVERSARY OF SIMPLE PROFESSION
    (1971-2020)
    Fray Regino Bangcaya

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Bernardita Villamor, AR

4
  • All day
    November 4, 2020

    PRAYER INTENTION: FOR OAR VOCATION (cf. LAMP I,5c) GENERAL COUNCIL MEETING / Rome / November 4-6

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Zenaida Cabanes, AR
    Sr. Ma. Esperanza Mae Valmores, AR

5
  • All day
    November 5, 2020

    NEGROS DAY / AL CINCO DE NOVIEMBRE

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Romeo Ben Potencio, Jr.
    Fray Rey Jay Quevedo (simply prof.)
    Andrei John Ea (RAY-Bacolod)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    (2000-2020)
    Fray Federico de la Rosa

6
  • All day
    November 6, 2020

    COMMEMORATION OF THE DECEASED MEMBERS OF THE ORDER

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Ma. Leoncia Bandal, AR
    Sr. Rona Alaza, AR
    Sr. Liezl Palabrica, AR
    Jeaseamaine Genelaso (RAY-Provincialate)

7
  • All day
    November 7, 2020

    SOLEMN PROFESSION OF FRAY RAMON B. BITANCOR III, OAR
    Venue: OLCP Mira-Nila Homes, Quezon City Time: 10:00 A.M.

    BLD. GRATIA OF KOTOR, Religious (Patron of OAR Lay Collaborators)

    9th CATHOLIC SOCIAL MEDIA SUMMIT
    VISIT: https://catholicsocialmediasummit.com/

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Ma. Cecilia Palomo, AR

8
  • All day
    November 8, 2020

    START OF THE NOVENA TO NUESTRA SRA. DE LA SALUD

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Alfreda Galinato, AR

9
  • All day
    November 9, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Emilio Jaruda, Jr.

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Fray Jesus Pastor Paloma (1996-2020)

10
  • All day
    November 10, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Hermosilla Torreon, AR

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Lourdes de San Agustin, AR

11
  • All day
    November 11, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Gemma Netollama, AR
    Sr. Christie Maquiling, AR

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Fernanda Balaba, AR

12
  • All day
    November 12, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Cristine Tenio, AR

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Ma. Corazon Nartia, AR

13
  • All day
    November 13, 2020

    ST. AUGUSTINE’S 1,666th BIRTHDAY

    ALL SAINTS OF THE ORDER

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Mo. Remedios de la Cruz, AR
    Sr. Rechilda Llorando, AR

14
  • All day
    November 14, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Clementina Galve, AR
    Sr. Luzviminda Escal, AR

15
  • All day
    November 15, 2020

    WORLD DAY OF THE POOR

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Marites Carasig, OAR (Tangub Monastery)
    Sr. Ma. Elisa Abellaniza, AR

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Encarnacion del Santissimo Sacramento, AR
    Sr. Consolacion Salamanca, AR
    Sr. Ma. Belen Muñez, AR
    Sr. Juana Mirasol, AR

16
  • All day
    November 16, 2020-November 26, 2020

    SIMBANG GABI STARTS

    BIRTHDAY
    Danica Padilla (RAY-Baguio)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    +Sr. Evangeline Geuncion, AR
    +Sr. Paulina Admana, AR
    +Sr. Ma. Milagros Lucero, AR

  • All day
    November 16, 2020

    DEDICATION AND CONSECRATION of the newly-renovated church of OLMCP-R, Cebu City
    Mass Presider: Archbp. Jose Palma, D.D.
    Live streaming at 4:00 P.M

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Roldan Benemerito (novice)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Mo. Carmen Alba, AR

17
  • All day
    November 17, 2020

    SOLEMNITY OF NUESTRA SEÑORA DE LA SALUD
    Fiesta Mass of La Salud @ SNDTP Quezon City|
    Live streaming @ 6:00 P.M.

    Fiesta Mass of La Salud @ OLMCP-R Cebu

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Nestor Raras
    Fray James Francis Bago (novice)

18
  • All day
    November 18, 2020

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Ricarda Raganas, AR

19
  • All day
    November 19, 2020

    PRAYER INTENTION: FOR THE SICK (cf. LAMP I,5c)

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Dolores Diana, AR
    Sr. Nobie Noman, AR
    Sr. Ma. Jeanne Partosa, AR
    Sr. Josephine Tanio, AR

20
  • All day
    November 20, 2020

    50th ANNIVERSARY OF POPE PAUL VIs “DECRETUM LAUDIS” granted to the Congregation of the Augustinian Recollect Sisters
    Mass Presider: Bp. Broderick Pabillo, D.D.
    Time: 10:00 A.M.

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Ralph Laureen Ciceron
    Mo. Eufemia Lauzon, AR
    Rea Mae Avila (RAY-Provincialate)

    ANNIVERSARY OF SOLEMN PROFESSION
    (2001-2020)
    Mo. Ma. Emy Catalonia, OAR (Tangub Monastery)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Celestina de San Nicolas de Tolentino, AR

21
  • All day
    November 21, 2020

    ANNIVERSARY OF APPOINTMENT AS ARCHBISHOP
    Archbp. Peter Liu Cheng-chung (Diocese of Kaoshiung, Taiwan)

    ANNIVERSARY OF SIMPLE PROFESSION
    (1998-2020)
    Mo. Ma. Emy Catalonia, OAR (Tangub Monastery)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Fray Santos Serato (2003-2020)
    Sr. Ma. Clara Flores, AR

22
  • All day
    November 22, 2020

    SOLEMNITY OF CHRIST THE KING

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Consejo de Santa Monica, AR
    Sr. Ma. Paulita Llacer, AR

23
  • All day
    November 23, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Erika Nicole Fruylan (RAY-Bacolod)

24
  • All day
    November 24, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Sir Michael Dineros
    Sr. Fulgencia Relos, AR
    Sr. Cathryn Nove Vila, AR
    Sherwin Louie Laserna (RAY-Talisay)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Imelda Lachica, AR
    Sr. Mary Bernard Matanguihan, AR

25
  • All day
    November 25, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Feliciano Campomanes, Jr
    Sr. Ma. Ninfa Inzon, AR
    Kate Lynn Alvarado (RAY-Talisay)

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Carmela de Santa Teresita, AR
    Sr. Francisca Abad, AR

2627
  • All day
    November 27, 2020

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Ivan Cuison (simply prof.)
    Sr. Antonietta Castañares, AR
    Sr. Rhiza Eltanal, AR

28
  • All day
    November 28, 2020

    PRAYER INTENTION: FOR THE MISSION (cf. LAMP I,5c)

    CONSISTORY FOR THE CREATION OF 13 NEW CARDINALS
    [Cardinals wear the color red which indicates their willingness to sacrifice themselves usque ad sanguinis effusionem, that is, to the point of shedding their own blood, in the service of the Successor of Peter]

    Below 80:

    • Maltese Mario Grech (Secretary General of the Synod of Bishops)
    • Italian Marcello Semeraro (new Prefect for the Congregation of Saints’ Causes)
    • Archbishop of Kilgali, Rwanda, Antoine Kambanda
    •  Archbishop of Washington, United States, Wilton Gregory
    • Archbishop of Capiz, Philippines, Jose Fuerte Advincula
    •  Archbishop of Santiago, Chile, Celestino Aós Braco
    • Apostolic Vicar of Brunei, Cornelius Sim
    • Archbishop of Siena, Italia, Augusto Paolo Lojudice
    •  Italian Fr. Mauro Gambetti (Guardian of the Franciscan Sacro Convento in Assisi)

     

    Above 80:

    • Felipe Arizmendi Esquivel, Archbishop Emeritus of San Cristóbal de Las Casas (Mexico)
    •  former Apostolic Nuncio Silvano Tomasi, former permanent observer at the United Nations in Geneva who then worked in the Dicastery for Promoting Integral Human Development
    •  Capuchin Father Raniero Cantalamessa, preacher of the Papal Household
    • Pastor of the Shrine of Divine Love, Msgr. Enrico Feroci

     

    XXII FOUNDING ANNIVERSARY of the PROVINCE OF ST. EZEKIEL MORENO (1998-2020)

    BIRTHDAY
    Sr. Eva Grace Cadungog, AR

    ANNIVERSARY OF PRESBYTERAL ORDINATION
    (2013-2020)
    Fray Jose Prudencio Castillo
    Fray Giovanni Gil Magbojos
    Fray Alexus Mansueto
    Fray Joseph Cyprian Panaligan

    9th ANNIVERSARY (2011-2020) OF ACCEPTANCE AS BROTHERS/SISTER GENERAL OF THE ORDER (OAR)
    Hon. Rufus Rodriguez
    Mr. Fulgencio Culaton
    Dr. Milagros Espina

29
  • All day
    November 29, 2020

    FIRST SUNDAY OF ADVENT

    BIRTHDAY
    Fray Glynn Ortega

    DEATH ANNIVERSARY
    Sr. Ma. Ester Anacleto, AR

30
  • All day
    November 30, 2020

    ST. ANDREW, apostle

    Holiday: BONIFACIO DAY

     

Categories